The irony is, we create to-do lists to feel more in control, but the planning can trigger some serious anxiety.
It’s Monday again. I hit snooze one too many times, and now my dog is using my leg as a personal jungle gym, demanding breakfast with enthusiastic (earsplitting) barks. I stumble into the kitchen, hair looking like it defied the laws of physics last night, phone in one hand desperately trying to silence the news about the world ending. Seriously…. just a sip of coffee in peace! Please.
Check the calendar – April already? Man, where did March even go? Maybe a to-do list will be my hero in this Monday madness.
But then I open my laptop and stare at the blank page. Dread creeps in – not about the actual tasks themselves, you know, the bank appointment I keep accidentally putting off. That damn laundry mountain, or the grocery run (all manageable).
No. It’s the planning itself that freaks me out.
What if I forget something important? Suddenly, my morning has gone from “making a to-do list to save me from the Monday madness” to being anxious about, well, being anxious.
This internal battle between needing a plan and dreading the planning process is something so many can relate to.
So, it got me thinking, why does this happen?
Well. We know our brains are wired for survival, and a key part of that is feeling in control of our environment. This is supported by the work of social psychologist Dr. Amy Cuddy, who emphasizes the connection between power and control.
However, life is inherently unpredictable. So, when we sit down to plan, the unknown can trigger the fight-or-flight response, which could make us anxious and overwhelmed.
It’s like being chased by a… Spreadsheet?
Here’s the good news: productivity experts suggest a few simple techniques can help you to turn planning into an actual tool, not a challenge.
1. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection
Let go of the idea of creating a flawless, all-encompassing to-do list. Instead, focus on the progress and being flexible.
Start with your top three monthly priorities. And if you’re feeling overwhelmed by a big task, break it down into simpler steps! For example, instead of “Finish novel,” try “Write 5,000 words this week.” Remember, this is a living document, not a rigid schedule. Adapt as needed.
Laura Vanderkam, a time management expert, suggests focusing on a few key priorities and scheduling realistic time blocks for them – far more effective than micromanaging every minute.
2. Make a “Maybe” Pile
Not everything needs meticulous planning. Create a separate list for less urgent tasks or things you’d “like to do” but aren’t important right now. This helps manage your anxiety by acknowledging other possibilities without feeling overwhelmed.
David Allen, creator of the Getting Things Done methodology encourages us to capture all our to-dos in a system outside of our head. This “brain dump” system allows you to clear your mind and focus on the tasks at hand without worrying about forgetting something important.
Plus, there are many digital to-do list apps with built-in features for these “maybe” tasks!
3. Schedule Time for Planning
Just like any other task, dedicate specific time slots for planning. Don’t let to-do list creation bleed into the rest of your day and fuel anxiety. Knowing you have a designated planning session allows you to focus on it during that time and relax in the meantime.
4. Take the Small Wins
Getting started is often the hardest part. Acknowledge and celebrate even small victories, like simply sitting down to plan or completing one task. A little self-praise can seriously motivate you to keep going.
Antoine de Saint-Exupér
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.”
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