Funny thing about happiness – we often chase it in the future, attached to some big accomplishment or life-changing event.
Life can get busy, and sometimes we zoom right past the good stuff. We rush from one deadline to the next, one dream to another, constantly in a state of “almost there.” But what if the key to happiness is slowing down and appreciating the little moments that make up our days?
Don’t get me wrong, chasing big goals is important. It gives us something to strive for, keeps us motivated. But sometimes, we get so laser-focused on the finish line, we miss the beautiful scenery along the way.
Confession time: for the longest time, I subscribed to this whole “happiness-is-out-there” philosophy. I pictured it as a giant gold star, awarded only once I’d reached some major life achievement. Think being a perfect mom (whoever they are!), landing my dream job, or maybe even achieving some travel goals.
But something shifted. Maybe it was the third trip to the grocery store in a week. Each time, I walked in with a list and good intentions, only to find myself daydreaming about finally cracking open that self-help book I’d been meaning to read for months – you know, the one titled “12 Rules for Life” (sound familiar?).
Suddenly, the aisles of canned foods transformed into a reading nook. By the time I snapped back to reality, my trolley had little groceries and a surprising number of brightly colored highlighters (hey, gotta mark all those important life lessons, right?). Initially, I was a little annoyed with myself. Another trip to the store with little to show for it! But then, I just laughed it off. Here I was, with highlighter markers instead of milk, and it felt…okay. In those moments, the “giant gold star” of future happiness seemed to lose its shine.
Whatever it was, it hit me: I was missing out. I was so busy waiting for some future “happiness” that I wasn’t enjoying the present, even the slightly chaotic moments.
Now, I genuinely enjoy the simple things: being able to go outside and watch the sunrise. The laughter (sometimes even the meltdowns!) with my kids at bedtime, and the quiet satisfaction of curling up with a good book at the end of a long day.
What about you? Take a moment to reflect on the little joys in your everyday life. You might be surprised by the happiness already within reach.
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