In a world where everyone has an opinion, it’s important to separate the helpful from the unhelpful.
Here, nine people share the advice that made a difference in their mental health journey, as well as the advice that, well, didn’t.
Best Advice:
1. “Don’t make decisions when you’re tired.”
It’s tempting to tick things off the list, but when you’re exhausted, your judgement isn’t at its best. Giving yourself time to rest can lead to clearer, more thoughtful decisions.
2. “Sit down with your inner child.”
This might sound a bit whimsical, but reconnecting with your younger self can be enlightening. It’s about understanding past emotions and offering yourself the compassion you needed back then.
3. “You can’t control the actions of others.”
A tough pill to swallow, but a freeing one. Letting go of the need to manage others’ behaviours allows you to focus on your own responses and well-being.
4. “The validation you’re looking for from others is the validation you are refusing to give to yourself.”
Seeking approval externally can be a never-ending chase. This advice encourages you to recognise your own worth and give yourself the credit you deserve.
5. “If you need me, I am here.”
Sometimes, the simplest words offer the most comfort. Knowing someone is genuinely there for you can make all the difference.
Worst Advice:
1. “Just push through it.”
While perseverance has its place, ignoring your limits can lead to burnout. It’s okay to pause and take care of yourself.
2. “You need to pray about it.”
Faith can be a source of strength for many, but suggesting it as a catch-all solution might overlook the need for practical support or professional help.
3. “Try not to think about it.”
If only it were that easy! Suppressing thoughts often makes them louder. Acknowledging and addressing feelings is a healthier approach.
4. “Go walk around the block.”
Fresh air is lovely, but it’s not a cure-all. Sometimes, deeper issues require more than a brief stroll to address.
Hopefully, these snippets of advice resonate with you, offering comfort or a gentle reminder of what to embrace and what to take with a pinch of salt on your mental health journey.
Mental Matters is a resource and information platform. We do not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. While the information on our website is for general awareness and support, it should not replace professional advice. For any mental health concerns, please consult a qualified healthcare or mental health professional.
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