Emotional triggers can disrupt your day in an instant. One moment you’re calm, and the next, you feel overwhelmed, anxious, or angry. These reactions often seem sudden, but they’re rarely random. Understanding how to identify emotional triggers helps you take control of your emotions and respond more intentionally — rather than reacting on impulse.
Step 1: Recognise emotional reactions
Start by paying attention to emotional spikes. For instance, do you ever feel unexpectedly irritated, shut down, or tearful in certain situations? These strong emotional shifts are often your mind’s way of saying, “Something deeper is going on.”
Step 2: Pinpoint the situation
Next, take a closer look at what happened.
- Who were you talking to?
- What was said or done?
- What made you feel unsafe, dismissed, or unseen?
Often, your emotional response connects to past experiences — not just the moment at hand.
Step 3: track patterns over time
The more you reflect, the more patterns start to emerge. Keep a journal or voice note log of your daily interactions. Over time, you’ll notice which situations or types of people trigger emotional responses. This insight can help you prepare and respond with more clarity.
Step 4: Connect triggers to your past
Emotional triggers don’t appear out of nowhere. They’re often linked to unresolved experiences like childhood trauma, bullying, betrayal, or loss. By gently exploring the root causes, you can begin to separate your past pain from your present reactions.
Step 5: Practise Self-Awareness and Compassion
As you identify emotional triggers, don’t judge yourself for how you feel. Instead, stay curious. Ask, “What is this emotion trying to tell me?” Self-awareness leads to growth — but compassion makes that growth sustainable.
Where to get help in South Africa
If you feel overwhelmed by emotional triggers, support is available:
- SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group) – Call 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393 for help
- Lifeline South Africa – Call 0861 322 322 for 24/7 emotional support
- Find a professional near you – Use the HPCSA website to find registered mental health professionals
Reviewed April 2025. Always consult a professional for individual guidance.
