We live in a society that can feel pretty judgmental and, honestly, toxic at times. Everywhere you look, someone has an opinion—raw, unfiltered, and often hits right where it hurts most. Of course, there are those rare gems who keep to themselves and resist the “I’m entitled to my opinion” mentality.
Respect to them.
How many of us have had the thought: “People are so damn mean?” followed by that nagging feeling, “Am I just too damn sensitive?”
Just the other day, I came across a comment online where someone was tearing apart someone else’s appearance in the most degrading way. I remember thinking, how can a few words from a stranger feel so personal? It seems like everyone and their cat (no disrespect to cats) has an opinion these days, and nothing feels private anymore.
The anonymity of the internet has definitely made people bolder. They’ll say things online that they’d never dream of saying face-to-face. This has created the perfect breeding ground for judgment, toxicity, and trolling. It’s so in-your-face and hard to avoid.
But, honestly, as bad as online trolls can be, I think the people who judge you straight to your face can sometimes be even worse. I’ve caught myself judging others when I’m stressed or overwhelmed, and I know I haven’t always been at my best when I’m not feeling it. We all fall into that trap sometimes. Not that it’s an excuse to be a shitty human. It’s just a reminder that we’re all human and we can slip up.
And sometimes, there’s also that little voice in my head that says, “You’re being silly and sensitive. It’s no big deal.” A great way to brush off what could be completely valid feelings, right? I can’t even count how many times I’ve had those words thrown at me, leaving me to wonder if I’m being dramatic or just overreacting.
But over time, I’ve actually come to appreciate that I’m sensitive. It keeps me more in tune with my own emotions and, just as importantly, with the emotions of others. It makes me feel like I care. And honestly, if more of us took a moment to think about how our words impact others, the world would be a little kinder.
So, maybe people are meaner these days. Or maybe the world has always had its share of cruelty, and we’re just more aware of it now. Either way, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to wish for a kinder world. And you’re not too sensitive for wanting kindness. Sensitivity, after all, is what makes us human.
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Ms Ansa Lange Therapeutic Bloemfontein
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