Tips for friends, partners, and family on being a calm, safe space—without accidentally making things worse. Not sure what to do when someone you love is having a panic attack? Many people feel helpless in the moment. But knowing how to support someone during a panic attack can help you stay grounded—and actually make a difference. This guide walks you through what panic attacks are, what to do (and avoid), and how to offer ongoing support without overstepping. First, understand what a panic attack feels like Panic attacks are intense. They’re not “just stress” or something you can snap out of. They come with sudden fear, a racing heart, trouble breathing, and sometimes even the feeling that you’re dying. Learning how to support someone during a panic attack starts with understanding that it’s a real, physical experience—not just a mental one. How to support someone in the moment If you’re with someone during an episode, here’s what can help: What not to do during a panic attack Even with good intentions, some common phrases or behaviours can make things harder: Panic isn’t rational. Your job isn’t to fix it—it’s to help them ride it out safely. How to support someone between panic attacks Ongoing support matters just as much as what happens in the moment. Here’s how to show up consistently: You don’t have to be perfect. Just be present. Learning how to support someone during a panic attack is about being kind, informed, and calm—even when things feel scary. That in itself can be healing. How I built myself a panic attack toolkit. Reviewed April 2025. Always consult a professional for individual guidance.