Ever feel hopelessly behind when everyone else seems to be cruising by? Friends buying houses, colleagues getting promoted, that neighbour who just adopted a llama (seriously, how do they do it all?) It’s easy to look around and feel like you’re falling behind in the race of life. But feeling behind is practically a right of passage. Why Compare When You Can Celebrate? Life isn’t a race with a single finish line. We all have our own unique paths. Instead of comparing yourself to others, try to reframe the feeling of being “behind” as “embracing my journey.” Healthy Dose of Perspective: Okay, maybe not complete denial, but a healthy dose of perspective is refreshing. Those friends buying houses? Maybe they’re living in their dream home held together by hope and laughter. And those colleagues with promotions? They could be sleep-deprived zombies secretly longing for your free time and Netflix marathons (no judgment!). Embrace the Absurdity of Comparison You wouldn’t compare your cooking skills to Gordon Ramsay’s, so why torture yourself by comparing your life to someone else’s? It’s just not fair (and frankly, a little depressing). Everyone’s got their own problems and struggles that you don’t see. So cut yourself some slack and focus on your own journey. Redefine “Success” on Your Terms (Because Who Made Up These Rules Anyway?) Maybe success isn’t a corner office and a yacht (although a yacht would be pretty sweet). Maybe for you, it’s having a job that doesn’t make you want to tear your hair out, spending time with loved ones who make you laugh until your sides hurt, or simply mastering the art of folding a fitted sheet (a life skill worthy of a medal!). We’re All Hilarious Hot Messes! The truth is, most people feel behind at some point. We’re all just winging it, figuring things out as we go along. So, embrace the chaos, laugh at your mistakes, and find joy in the weird, wonderful journey that is life. Focus on the amazing adventure that’s your life! It’s filled with exciting possibilities, even if there are bumps in the road and moments of doubt. By celebrating your own wins, learning from experiences, and keeping a positive outlook, you’re sure to reach a happy and fulfilling destination – a life that’s uniquely and wonderfully your own. P.S. Feeling lost is normal. Just picture your future self looking back and saying, “Wow, I was such a hot mess back then. But hey, at least I had fun!” Mental Matters is a resource and information platform. We do not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. While the information on our website is for general awareness and support, it should not replace professional advice. For any mental health concerns, please consult a qualified healthcare or mental health professional. Reframe Psychology and Counselling Clinic Abbotsford Why Panic Attacks Happen (Even When Nothing Seems Wrong) East Team Forward Thinking Birmingham Dr Win Khine Obstetrician and Gynaecologist Brighton You’ve Got This! Take Control of Your Anxiety