If you ever find yourself in a situation, where you’re stuck in the middle of someone else’s relationship, it can be hard to know what to do.
Here are a few helpful steps you can take to protect your own emotional wellbeing while offering support:
1. Acknowledge Your Limits
It’s important to realise that you can’t fix their relationship.
While it’s natural to want to help, relationships are complex, and ultimately, it’s up to the two people involved to work things out.
2. Set Boundaries
It’s okay to say, “I care about both of you, but I can’t continue being in the middle.”
Establishing this boundary lets them know you’re not abandoning them—you’re just respecting your own needs.
Make it clear that while you’re there to support them individually, you can’t be their mediator.
3. Encourage Communication
Sometimes, people need a reminder to communicate with each other rather than vent to others.
You can gently suggest that they talk to each other directly and openly about their feelings.
This might encourage them to work through their issues together instead of using you as the go-between.
4. Practice Self-Care
It’s draining to be pulled into someone else’s relationship drama. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself, whether that’s through relaxation, spending time with people who lift you up, or simply stepping away when it becomes overwhelming.
5. Recommend Outside Support
If the situation becomes too much for them to handle alone, encourage them to seek professional guidance.
A relationship or marriage counsellor can help them work through their issues in a neutral, supportive environment.
Mental Matters is a resource and information platform. We do not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. While the information on our website is for general awareness and support, it should not replace professional advice. For any mental health concerns, please consult a qualified healthcare or mental health professional.
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