It’s not always easy to tell if someone you care about is struggling, but being aware of certain signs can help you reach out and offer support. Here’s what you might notice:
1. Emotional Signs
- Ongoing Sadness or Hopelessness: If someone talks about feeling like things will never get better or that they don’t have any value, it’s a serious red flag. They might be feeling overwhelmed and hopeless.
- Extreme Mood Swings: Watch for sudden shifts from deep sadness to seeming unexpectedly calm or happy. Sometimes, this can indicate a troubling decision has been made.
- Obsessions with Death: If someone frequently talks about death, dying, or self-harm, they might be struggling with suicidal thoughts.
2. Behavioural Signs
- Pulling Away: If they’re isolating themselves from friends, family, or activities they used to enjoy, it might mean they’re feeling overwhelmed and alone.
- Drastic Changes: Notice if they suddenly start neglecting their responsibilities at work or school, or if their behaviour seems out of character.
- Giving Away Belongings: If they’re giving away their possessions or making unusual arrangements, it could be a sign they’re preparing for the end.
3. Physical Signs
- Neglecting Self-Care: Changes in how they look or how they take care of themselves, like poor hygiene or dressing differently, can indicate they’re struggling.
- Increased Substance Use: If they’re using alcohol or drugs more than usual, or if there are noticeable changes in their eating and sleeping habits, it might be a way they’re trying to cope.
4. What to Do
If you spot these signs in someone you care about, it’s important to reach out. Let them know you’re there for them and encourage them to speak with a mental health professional. Early support can make a big difference.
5. Need Immediate Help?
If you think they’re in immediate danger, don’t hesitate to contact emergency services or a crisis hotline. In South Africa, you can call:
- Samaritans: 116
- Lifeline: 0861 322 322
- Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0800 567 567
There’s help available, and reaching out can provide the support they need.
Mental Matters is a resource and information platform. We do not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. While the information on our website is for general awareness and support, it should not replace professional advice. For any mental health concerns, please consult a qualified healthcare or mental health professional.
